Get Your Loved One Sober

Title: Get Your Loved One Sober
Subtitle: Alternatives to Nagging, Pleading, and Threatening
Authors: Robert J. Meyers, Ph.D. and Brenda L. Wolfe, Ph.D.
Publisher: Hazelden Publishing
Copyright: 2004
ISBN-13: 978-1592850815
Format: Paperback
Genre: Non-Fiction

Using the Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT) therapeutic model as a basis, this book is for those who live with or love someone who drinks or uses drugs too much, whether this is a spouse, parent, child, sibling, or someone else.

CRAFT was developed at the University of New Mexico by Dr. Robert Myers and colleagues. With many years of experience in treating addiction, he is currently the director of Robert J. Myers & Associates, which provides training and consulting in evidence-based treatment protocols. Also associated with the University of New Mexico, Dr. Brenda Wolfe is a clinical psychologist specializing in the treatment of obesity and eating disorders, program design, research, and manuscript development.

The SMART Recovery Family & Friends program incorporates the principles of CRAFT. Thus, those who have some familiarity with the SMART program will notice similarities.

Although the book generally uses examples of those who overuse alcohol, the points that are made would be equally helpful with loved ones who use other substances to excess.

Most addiction treatment programs are designed to assist individuals who have decided that they want to give up their substance use.

If this were true, program success rates would be much higher. In reality, most users refuse to enter treatment, and many of those who do will drop out after a few sessions.

This is because many of them are in treatment, or attending recovery meetings, out of coercion, either from the court system or due to pressure from a spouse or another loved one.

Because they are not personally involved in their treatment, the chances of success are low.

The intention of this book is to show family members how they can help their loved ones see the benefits of treatment and to prepare them to be open to change, so that they can sign on to their own recovery.

The book's subtitle emphasizes its intention to serve as an alternative to some of the tactics that people often use in frustration, while trying to get their loved ones sober. While nagging, pleading, and threatening are sometimes successful in getting someone into treatment, or a meeting, they are unlikely to be engaged in their own treatment.

There are no guarantees, of course, but if you've found that your current tactics have been less than successful, your chances will be better if you try these proven alternatives.

The goals are to improve the quality of your own life, and to make sobriety more attractive to your loved one than drinking.

The techniques offered in Get Your Loved One Sober are not difficult, although applying them to your own life can be a bit harder. Change isn't easy, but change for the better is worth the effort.

After months or years of nagging, pleading, and threatening, you're probably ready for a change. Let's prepare your loved one to be ready for recovery.

Currently, the book sells on Amazon for $10.79, although several used editions are also available. There is a Kindle edition, but it costs more than the paperback - $11.99.